HOW DO YOU EARN RESPECT FROM PEOPLE?

A lot of people are willing to go an extra mile just to gain respect from other people. To some, it’s not just a word, but something of great value that, heinous crimes are committed just so fear and respect are instilled in people.

Without respect, we can agree that we feel like we are at the bottom of the food chain, we feel powerless, and/or in other words, worthless. Respect goes a long way, from being the CEO of a great company to a class monitor at a primary school and all these people are known to be highly respected because of their status in the community at large.

Karma, as it is famously known, plays a huge role in what we long for, which is gaining respect from other people. What do I mean by this? I mean that, if you want to be respected by people, you must learn and respect people as well, it’s not a one side thing.

You expect to be respected but this is how you live your life:

1. You gamble with your paycheck and forget about your family back home. You don’t take care about your needs first, your health, giving out charity.

2. You party hard, go to the Club all night and sleep during the day. You have no purpose, you actually chose to have no purpose because you think you live by the infamous motto, “You only live once, so live to the fullest”, but you forget about the consequences, the results of the life now, to the day of tomorrow.

3. You don’t care about Humanity, you don’t care about life in general and you expect others to have respect towards you, to treat you good.

You long to be loved, to be respected, to be cared for, to be important to the society, yet you do the complete opposite to the same society you expect to receive a huge amount of respect from.

How do you earn respect from people? A simple question with a few easy and simple answers too. You must start with the small steps or small things of course:

  • Be the first person in the room to greet people
  • Be the helping hand most of the times. Offer help and support to people who need it as they say, it goes a long way.
  • Give some space to people if they request of it and don’t engage yourself in other people’s business especially if you don’t want people to mingle in yours.

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
Confucius

If you take a close look at some of the points I listed above, you will notice that they all have one main thing in common, which is being ‘good’. If you are good to people, most of the times the goodness you show to people always finds its way back to you, sooner or later.

We talked about karma before, in this case, good karma, that if you do good then surely good things comes back to you as it is with respect. Its safe to say that respect and being good, are to some extend one and the same thing.

I Feel trapped in my own mind

Day by day,
I stand idle behind the door,
looking at the locks mounting on each other,
trapped inside and I don’t know what to do
anymore.

I am a prisoner in my own dreams, in my own world.
I have been comfortable far too long in my so called
comfort zone’, I am weak.
Afraid to admit and too afraid to face my fears,
hard to express, but the words are written on my tears.

It never crossed my mind,
if I could or if I should break the silence.
Maybe I can’t do it or maybe I need guidance.

A question always comes into my mind and has become
a nuisance.
What If?!

What If,
the reason I am trapped in my own mind,
is because I am afraid to face the world, to feel real pain,
to fall and never get back up?
What If,
the reason I am trapped in my own mind,
is because I am far too damaged to heal?

After all, only a man of courage sees a door where the cowards think there’s no way.
Well, I guess I will never know until I try.

HOPE NEVER DIES: A poem by Saleem Mbwambwa

He woke up one day,
seeing the firmament so pellucid and hear the birds
do nothing, but sing.

A smile grew on his face and from that moment,
he knew he was going to win.
From a distance, his happiness started to blossom as he
heard the school bell ring.

Despite all his past failures and all the pain, he suffered,
as the story reads,
his mother sacrificed all she had,
giving him, her son, all he could possibly need.

Temptations, difficulties, so called trials and tribulations
surrounded him, and he kept his chin up.
So ambitious, so driven, he did what needed to be done,
the temptations the enemy and his mind the gun.

He persevered, he endured, He prayed, and He smiled.
He smiled, even in times that were considered the worst and yet he
still looked up to the heavens, raised his hands and prayed for the best
and he had to leave everything to his maker, to take care of the rest.

At the end of the day, he knew that this was all a test,
for not only did the heavens bless him with success,
but also, a story worth telling for generations to come,
as the title of the story reads, ‘Hope never dies’.

POEM: The day we first met



The striking moment when our eyes first met,
silent words, eyes gazing before the first words of hello
were uttered.
The unforgettable scent of lotus flowers and lavender,
that day became my favorite date on the calendar.

POEM: light lost from her eyes…

Her soul could not give him much
love anymore, but yet still he roared with
discontent.
She gave him all of her and was left with
nothing, even her eyes witnessed the light
departing from within