We can all agree that most of us have been a victim of overthinking in our lives, and some are still struggling with this problem. Overthinking poisons the mind. The questions of ‘Why? Or ‘How’, we ask ourselves repeatedly and we seem to get no answers we want and that can be a problem.
This problem usually affects people of young age since most of them are in the ‘Identity Crisis stage. Overthinking is usually associated with depression, stress, and sometimes post-traumatic stress disease (PTSD), so it’s not unusual to find that people who are experiencing some of these issues tend to overthink. To some extent, the lack of love in our households also results in this, the need to be loved to the extent of thinking you can’t find love and when you do find it, you easily push away people thinking it’s too good to be true. It’s wrong to judge people who tend to overthink, rather, we must help them see the world and the good in it and that they themselves deserve the goodness in this world.
It’s not bad to think or to be analytical, but when you start to think too much, then that’s a problem. What are usually the signs that show someone is an overthinker?
5 signs you are an overthinker:
1. Asking yourself a lot of ‘Why? Or ‘What if…?’ questions most of the time.
2. Reminiscing a relationship that ended 2/3 years ago, repeatedly when instead you should have moved on by now.
3. Spending most of the time, thinking of why you are not just good enough for anything or to do anything.
4. Relieving your past mistakes
5. Trying to think of the hidden meaning of the words people always say to you or what they have done to you.
…and the list goes on
Not only is it a bad thing to overthink, but there are also health problems associated with it which include brain and heart problems, only to mention a few. Constant worrying affects the brain with a lot of negativity. You start to perceive the world with a lot of pessimism and as for the heart, chest pains and tachycardia are some of the problems that affect the heart. It’s no rocket science to know that this is not an easy thing to overcome.
Reading a lot of articles or books on how best to overcome overthinking is a good start. Take one step at a time, know that the world doesn’t change overnight. Do you want to stop overthinking? then work on it, act on it because at the end of the day, if not you, then who will help you?
Have an open mind and try to see the world from outside the box you are used to hiding yourself in. There’s more to life than what you see, give the world a chance and it will give you a chance as well. One heartbeat at a time, as you help yourself with the process. You are not alone, no one is actually and we are in this together. It’s good to talk to someone and let it out than to burden yourself with thoughts of WHY or trying to make sense of HOW it happened to you and not anyone else.
If you can’t talk to anyone, then write it down, paint it and scream to the skies and the skies will surely hear you. A lot of us often think, we are the only ones experiencing these problems, but that’s not the truth. A lot of people out there are experiencing the same. Don’t dwell too much on your past because there are so many things that life or the future has to offer if you give it a chance.
Be grateful for the small things and from there you will notice that you aren’t missing a lot at all. Sometimes things happen the way they happen for so many reasons and not many of those times we will know the reason, but the most important thing is to accept reality, to accept the way things, they are and rather ask yourself what you are going to do about it. It starts to make sense with time if you take a step back and relax and work on yourself. It’s not meant to be easy but give it a try.
If many people can do it, then why can’t you? The beauty of life is that most of the things that happen to us will always be a mystery. Stop overthinking and as it also affects the people around you. Why spend half of the day relieving past events when you can live in the moment and focus on the future? Food for thought.
“Take time to deliberate, but when the time for action has arrived, stop thinking and go in.”
– Napoleon Bonaparte