Thankful for the sun that brings warmth to the hearts of the living. Thankful for the moon that keeps the secrets that we share with her in times of need. Thankful for the wind that blows off steam when our minds are filled with negative thoughts,
for the love we share, for the tears that pour down when we hurt, for the lessons we learn when we make mistakes, for yesterday, today and tomorrow And for the air we breathe.
We can all agree that most of us have been a victim of overthinking in our lives, and some are still struggling with this problem. Overthinking poisons the mind. The questions of ‘Why? Or ‘How’, we ask ourselves repeatedly and we seem to get no answers we want and that can be a problem.
This problem usually affects people of young age since most of them are in the ‘Identity Crisis stage. Overthinking is usually associated with depression, stress, and sometimes post-traumatic stress disease (PTSD), so it’s not unusual to find that people who are experiencing some of these issues tend to overthink. To some extent, the lack of love in our households also results in this, the need to be loved to the extent of thinking you can’t find love and when you do find it, you easily push away people thinking it’s too good to be true. It’s wrong to judge people who tend to overthink, rather, we must help them see the world and the good in it and that they themselves deserve the goodness in this world.
It’s not bad to think or to be analytical, but when you start to think too much, then that’s a problem. What are usually the signs that show someone is an overthinker?
5 signs you are an overthinker:
1. Asking yourself a lot of ‘Why? Or ‘What if…?’ questions most of the time.
2. Reminiscing a relationship that ended 2/3 years ago, repeatedly when instead you should have moved on by now.
3. Spending most of the time, thinking of why you are not just good enough for anything or to do anything.
4. Relieving your past mistakes
5. Trying to think of the hidden meaning of the words people always say to you or what they have done to you.
…and the list goes on
Not only is it a bad thing to overthink, but there are also health problems associated with it which include brain and heart problems, only to mention a few. Constant worrying affects the brain with a lot of negativity. You start to perceive the world with a lot of pessimism and as for the heart, chest pains and tachycardia are some of the problems that affect the heart. It’s no rocket science to know that this is not an easy thing to overcome.
Reading a lot of articles or books on how best to overcome overthinking is a good start. Take one step at a time, know that the world doesn’t change overnight. Do you want to stop overthinking? then work on it, act on it because at the end of the day, if not you, then who will help you?
Have an open mind and try to see the world from outside the box you are used to hiding yourself in. There’s more to life than what you see, give the world a chance and it will give you a chance as well. One heartbeat at a time, as you help yourself with the process. You are not alone, no one is actually and we are in this together. It’s good to talk to someone and let it out than to burden yourself with thoughts of WHY or trying to make sense of HOW it happened to you and not anyone else.
If you can’t talk to anyone, then write it down, paint it and scream to the skies and the skies will surely hear you. A lot of us often think, we are the only ones experiencing these problems, but that’s not the truth. A lot of people out there are experiencing the same. Don’t dwell too much on your past because there are so many things that life or the future has to offer if you give it a chance.
Be grateful for the small things and from there you will notice that you aren’t missing a lot at all. Sometimes things happen the way they happen for so many reasons and not many of those times we will know the reason, but the most important thing is to accept reality, to accept the way things, they are and rather ask yourself what you are going to do about it. It starts to make sense with time if you take a step back and relax and work on yourself. It’s not meant to be easy but give it a try.
If many people can do it, then why can’t you? The beauty of life is that most of the things that happen to us will always be a mystery. Stop overthinking and as it also affects the people around you. Why spend half of the day relieving past events when you can live in the moment and focus on the future? Food for thought.
“Take time to deliberate, but when the time for action has arrived, stop thinking and go in.”
There’s no doubt that the year 2020 was one of the toughest years that we had to endure. So many things happened beyond imaginable, lives lost and many people losing their jobs because of this Global pandemic known as ‘Covid-19’ or Corona Virus.
For more on Coronavirus disease, tap on the link to read and learn more about what the disease is and how it spreads. Not only did people lose their lives because of this disease, but a lot more lost their jobs because many companies had to shut down because of the economic strain the outbreak caused. Now, because a lot of many people have been left to wonder how they would pay for their food, daily expenses and so on, we can all try to imagine how the less fortunate have been affected. Since the beginning of the year 2020, many have been challenged, mentally of course and to those who were and still not ready to deal with this chaos, hope seems to be lost and to some, they are holding on as much as they can.
Financially, there is not much that many can do to help themselves to fight poverty and the likes, but it seems the only thing we can hold on to and try not to lose, is hope. Hoping things will turn out well sooner or later. Hope never dies as the saying goes and it sure doesn’t die. Positivity goes a long way during these difficult times. Of course, because these are testing times for all of us, we are bound to meet people who have been affected mentally, and probably they cannot hope for things to get better anymore. If you are one of those optimistic individuals who always hope for things to get better, then spreading positivity is surely another way to help those who do not see colour anymore in these grey times. Losing hope is more of a choice to some extent because no one or nothing can take it away from you. Yes! there is a fine line between being overly optimistic and being a realist, but you can’t argue that most of us are getting by just because we spend half of the day in our imaginations. We spend half of the day thinking of how things could have been because we are just afraid to face reality. It’s now a blessing to survive to see the next day, hoping to see have that car you had been dreaming to have in the next five years. Dreams to get married, dreams to have children, dreams to go to that favorite city or country all seem to be an almost impossible thing to have or achieve now.
There has been a high record of people committing suicide, because they can’t bear to face reality. It’s not a shameful thing to look for help if such thoughts have been crossing your mind. Look for help, be around people who have that positive vibe to feed yours which is now fading away in a place of no return. Hug the next person to you as you are reading this, show them love and make them feel loved and vice-versa because honestly no one was promised to see tomorrow. Hoping to see tomorrow, hoping to reach that light at the end of the tunnel, hoping to see that beautiful rainbow at the end of the storm is what gets us by in these troubling times.
Pray and be patient, things won’t change overnight, but hoping they will, helps us get out of bed in the morning every day. For one to enjoy the fruits of hope, one must get up and do his or her part, and let the Almighty do the rest. The most important thing is to spread the positivity.
If you see someone with a dimming light in his or her heart, help them see the light that you see. We won’t get by on our own, but if we work together, keep each other safe and if we just take a deep breath for a moment and think that eventually after a storm comes calm, then I assure you the end result is blissful. It won’t be easy and that’s a fact but trying won’t hurt.
You are still able to smile, despite losing your job or losing a loved one? Then I salute you because it’s not easy to be strong in these weak times. You are still able to smile even though the world has turned its back away from you? then put that blessing of a smile on the person next to you and you will notice how, hopeful you will feel that nothing as monstrous as this disease will be permanent, everything is temporary in this world. Now we all hope 2021 will be an amazing year.
“You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once but don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.” – Michelle Obama
A lot of people are willing to go an extra mile just to gain respect from other people. To some, it’s not just a word, but something of great value that, heinous crimes are committed just so fear and respect are instilled in people.
Without respect, we can agree that we feel like we are at the bottom of the food chain, we feel powerless, and/or in other words, worthless. Respect goes a long way, from being the CEO of a great company to a class monitor at a primary school and all these people are known to be highly respected because of their status in the community at large.
Karma, as it is famously known, plays a huge role in what we long for, which is gaining respect from other people. What do I mean by this? I mean that, if you want to be respected by people, you must learn and respect people as well, it’s not a one side thing.
You expect to be respected but this is how you live your life:
1. You gamble with your paycheck and forget about your family back home. You don’t take care about your needs first, your health, giving out charity.
2. You party hard, go to the Club all night and sleep during the day. You have no purpose, you actually chose to have no purpose because you think you live by the infamous motto, “You only live once, so live to the fullest”, but you forget about the consequences, the results of the life now, to the day of tomorrow.
3. You don’t care about Humanity, you don’t care about life in general and you expect others to have respect towards you, to treat you good.
You long to be loved, to be respected, to be cared for, to be important to the society, yet you do the complete opposite to the same society you expect to receive a huge amount of respect from.
How do you earn respect from people? A simple question with a few easy and simple answers too. You must start with the small steps or small things of course:
Be the first person in the room to greet people
Be the helping hand most of the times. Offer help and support to people who need it as they say, it goes a long way.
Give some space to people if they request of it and don’t engage yourself in other people’s business especially if you don’t want people to mingle in yours.
“Respect yourself and others will respect you.” Confucius
If you take a close look at some of the points I listed above, you will notice that they all have one main thing in common, which is being ‘good’. If you are good to people, most of the times the goodness you show to people always finds its way back to you, sooner or later.
We talked about karma before, in this case, good karma, that if you do good then surely good things comes back to you as it is with respect. Its safe to say that respect and being good, are to some extend one and the same thing.
Day by day, I stand idle behind the door, looking at the locks mounting on each other, trapped inside and I don’t know what to do anymore.
I am a prisoner in my own dreams, in my own world. I have been comfortable far too long in my so called comfort zone’, I am weak. Afraid to admit and too afraid to face my fears, hard to express, but the words are written on my tears.
It never crossed my mind, if I could or if I should break the silence. Maybe I can’t do it or maybe I need guidance.
A question always comes into my mind and has become a nuisance. What If?!
What If, the reason I am trapped in my own mind, is because I am afraid to face the world, to feel real pain, to fall and never get back up? What If, the reason I am trapped in my own mind, is because I am far too damaged to heal?
After all, only a man of courage sees a door where the cowards think there’s no way. Well, I guess I will never know until I try.
He woke up one day, seeing the firmament so pellucid and hear the birds do nothing, but sing.
A smile grew on his face and from that moment, he knew he was going to win. From a distance, his happiness started to blossom as he heard the school bell ring.
Despite all his past failures and all the pain, he suffered, as the story reads, his mother sacrificed all she had, giving him, her son, all he could possibly need.
Temptations, difficulties, so called trials and tribulations surrounded him, and he kept his chin up. So ambitious, so driven, he did what needed to be done, the temptations the enemy and his mind the gun.
He persevered, he endured, He prayed, and He smiled. He smiled, even in times that were considered the worst and yet he still looked up to the heavens, raised his hands and prayed for the best and he had to leave everything to his maker, to take care of the rest.
At the end of the day, he knew that this was all a test, for not only did the heavens bless him with success, but also, a story worth telling for generations to come, as the title of the story reads, ‘Hope never dies’.