Why do you feel so lonely and sad?
I know you are probably thinking, you have all those people around you, at work, school, college, that you should not be feeling so lonely and/or sad. I know it’s frustrating, to be able to feel empty inside, nothing amuses you, no one really understands you, and that the world doesn’t really get you, who you are as a person. It’s sad to know that in a world full of people, billions of them, that you still feel lonely regardless.
Storytime, I remember a time when a person close to me passed away and I didn’t really have anyone else to talk to about it, considering my mother was also grieving and mourning and I didn’t want to add an extra load of worries on top of hers and I remember something someone said in an article, that if you are feeling down you should turn to someone close to you and try to talk to them about it, but in my case, I really didn’t have anyone in particular. Well, it’s all because of me being an introvert that I couldn’t just save myself from drowning in my own tears, that I couldn’t just talk to someone about it and as a result, it took a long time for me to be able to handle the sadness.
I started to joke about my sadness, trying to find humor where it isn’t which is not normal. I remember dating a girl and her asking me about my loss and of course I hadn’t told anyone else, well I thought, why not just tell her since it had been 3 years since the loss, to my surprise, I cried a lot and I didn’t know how emotional that made me and after the cuddles and talk, I felt a huge load of freedom from the load I had been carrying for almost three years, TALKING HELPS TOO. Why am I telling you this, you wonder, well it comes back to the main question, why do you feel so lonely and sad?
No one wants to be alone, to be left out in a world of billions. No one wants to feel like they are living on mars and they are seeing everybody else smile on earth, far away and here they are, living on an empty planet. Sadly for some people, it’s a choice, but for some, certain situations lead them to be in a state of loneliness. Some people are stuck with the notion that someone will come into their lives someday to save themselves from being alone and lonely, so they don’t bother talking to other people because of that idea. Mind you, talking to other people does not necessarily mean you have befriended them,
it could be your way of making yourself not feel lonely.
Why do you feel lonely, you ask yourself, well the answer to that question could be the fact that you are hanging out with the wrong people, who always make you doubt yourself and lead to you asking so many questions at times, dark answers. Most of the answers you get are often leading you to isolate yourself because you are wondering at the end of the day, “why bother?”
Some of the reasons you are lonely or feel lonely are because you are an introvert, yes! That’s one of the major reasons a majority of us feel lonely, because of the need to be in the corner of the room when everybody else is in the center living their lives expecting someone is going to come and save you. Having too many expectations in a friendship or relationship making some of those expectations too imaginative for anyone to meet them, is also a huge reason why you are feeling lonely and/or are lonely. Take it
down a notch, make things easy for those who surround you, and make things easy for yourself too, be a realist, at the end of the day, you are only human. Everything takes time, starting with a simple hi or hello to the person next to you. It all starts there and sure goes a long way after that.
It might sound cliche, but one of the reasons you feel lonely or might be lonely is because you spend too much time on your phone, you are constantly looking at, too good to be true, photos of people on social media, ergo, expecting the same to happen to you, forgetting that you should not believe everything you see on the internet. Switch off that phone and laptop for just a few minutes, come back to reality, ask yourself what is it that you really want, be positive-minded, they say you attract people who reflect the type of person you are on the inside, think about that for a minute
and then continue reading.
Anger is a manifestation of a deeper issue… and that, for me, is based on insecurity, self-esteem, and loneliness. -Naomi Campbell
Not every friendship or relation is all magical and happy, this is reality, you want that happiness from and in people then it should start from you, thus, the same people you are going to attract and you won’t be lonely at the end of the day.